You open up, and feel connection building. The conversations are about to get deeper.
You think “finally.”
And then they pull away, and it pisses you TF off!
They get distant, act avoidant again or even need space for a period of time. All of the sudden they stop initiating... and you’re left rereading messages trying to decode what changed.
You want to be deeply chosen when you’re seen, and for what you’re seen for. You want to share your thoughts, feelings, dreams and be met there. You're craving the depth, to feel close to your person...
And you’re stuck between:
“I would love to feel close to someone.” and “Why do they always retreat when we get close? What else can I do?”
It’s not that people are avoidant. It’s that intimacy activates your nervous system. It contracts when it knows that your deepest secrets, fears, and thoughts will be revealed once you get close. That they will see the mess behind the strong, independent woman.
The messy bedroom... you overspending on unnecessary items. All the things you know you could be judged for, which activates a lot of fear and shame unconsciously.
The moment you get consistent communication, you calculate your responses, fear being too much when texting and tighten, which closes you up and translates in your SP being avoidant.
When you stop fearing being seen… You stop attracting people fearing closeness.
This is where my new masterclass, SEEN, comes in.
• Your SP pulls away once things get emotionally deep or you never really got to a point where things get deep even when you try to open up
• You crave long emotionally intimate conversations and mutual understanding
• You want emotional availability, not breadcrumb, avoidant behavior
• You overthink how you’re perceived and seen by him
• You’re tired of trying to rewrite the silence and his need for more space
• You want these long late night calls for 2 hours where the masks have fallen, and the deepest love is confessed
• You want to blame your past and current partners without looking at your own patterns
• You prefer surface level connections
• You prefer staying emotionally guarded
• You are not ready to be seen in your depth or do the inner work
You can affirm “he’s open” all day and visualise these late night conversations by a fireplace.
But if your body still braces for rejection, or vulnerability still feels humiliating, or emotional intimacy still feels unsafe,
you will subconsciously close up.
SEEN is not about faking it till you make it.
It’s about becoming the woman who can safely hold openness and being seen vulnerable.
It's about having an emotionally available partner who can handle his big emotions and yours.
When your body stops contracting around intimacy, your dynamic shifts.
Sitting across from him, fully yourself, speaking your real thoughts and feeling him lean in and gives you a long warm, hug, and says "I understand. I'm here for you, and I am not going anywhere without you.
A 2 AM phone call where you both cannot seem to hang up and end up telling each other about your funniest, most embarrassing encounters during primary school.
You go for a walk together, and he tells you all about his childhood and how he is now learning to heal and you're the first person he has ever told his full story.
How would it feel to finally experience closeness and just relax into it?
This is what we learn to create inside SEEN through a step by step process. You will leave the masterclass cracked open, and changed forever.
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A replay will be available, and you can send me your questions in advance if you cannot make it live.
£25 for the first 5 people then the price goes up, 2 spots remaining.